What You Can Do

What can we do as individuals? Where do we begin?

Ten recommendations from Resetting the Table:

1. Practice reconstructing others’ thinking.

RTT’s first foundational skill – a “bullseye reflection” – involves working to capture the thinking of others on their own terms. Take someone out to coffee with whom you disagree, inquire into their views and experiences, try to capture what you hear accurately, ask for feedback, and be correctable. See how it changes the conversation.

2. Support RTT and other bridge-building efforts.

Support RTT and other bridge-building organizations with your volunteer hours, connecting power, and donations. Amplify depolarizing messages online. Bring bridge-builders to speak in your community. Your contributions will make a difference in creating a better path forward.

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3. Reward nuance!

Reward elected officials, opinion leaders, and journalists seeking complexity, shining a light on shared humanity, and seeking out collaboration across divides. So many leaders are also sick of division and impasse, but feel constrained by what they think we want. We can give them cover.

4. Build bridges wherever you are!

You don’t need to sign up for a bridge-building activity. We can build bridges in our workplaces. In our houses of worship. In our communities. In our families.

5. Champion bridge-building.

People look to people like themselves to determine what is socially acceptable.  We can tell a new story in which we are each other’s only possible partners in building a healthy society and shared future. Give sermons about bridging. Tell stories about it. Whether you’re a sports coach or a Tiktok creator or a leader in a trade association.

6. Do a self-inventory.

Pursue perspectives you don’t yet understand. Ask yourself: who is and isn’t informing my thinking? What can I read? Who can I talk to? Remember: we can still fight to address our concerns, knowing understanding is not agreement.

7. Catch misrepresentation and caricature!

Media literacy is not only about catching misinformation. It’s also about catching media distortion and stereotypes of our societal counterparts. We can start to catch bias and blind spots in media stories, and become less prey to manipulation and reactivity from the online machinery of anger.

8. Be an online voice of calm.

First, do no harm (e.g., don’t retweet things that make leaps about entire groups of other Americans). Be a voice that says, Wait. How do we know that about them? This doesn’t mean being silent or not speaking out about what’s important to us.

9. Bring RTT’s short film Purple to your community.

Our short film Purple and robust post-screening DIY Discussion Guide provide everything you need to introduce your community to bridge-building skills and ideas.

Host a Screening
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10. Shoot us an inquiry.

While we are not able to work directly with everyone who writes us, we have a strong referral network to facilitators we’ve trained as well as peer organizations. If we can’t work with you, we’ll try to help you find your way to other resources and ways to get involved.

Inquiries
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1. Practice reconstructing others’ thinking.

RTT’s first foundational skill—a “bullseye reflection”—involves working to capture the thinking of others on their own terms. Take someone out to coffee with whom you disagree, inquire into their views and experiences, try to capture what you hear accurately, ask for feedback, and be correctable. See how it changes the conversation.

2. Support RTT and other bridge-building efforts.

Support RTT and other bridge-building organizations with your volunteer hours, connecting power, and donations. Amplify depolarizing messages online. Bring bridge-builders to speak in your community. Your contributions will make a difference in creating a better path forward.

Support RTT
Arrow pointing right

3. Reward nuance!

Reward elected officials, opinion leaders, and journalists seeking complexity, shining a light on shared humanity, and seeking out collaboration across divides. So many leaders are also sick of division and impasse, but feel constrained by what they think we want. We can give them cover.

4. Build bridges wherever you are!

You don’t need to sign up for a bridge-building activity. We can build bridges in our workplaces. In our houses of worship. In our communities. In our families.

5. Champion bridge-building.

People look to people like themselves to determine what is socially acceptable. We can tell a new story in which we are each other’s only possible partners in building a healthy society and shared future. Give sermons about bridging. Tell stories about it. Whether you’re a sports coach or a Tiktok creator or a leader in a trade association.

6. Do a self-inventory.

Pursue perspectives you don’t yet understand. Ask yourself: who is and isn’t informing my thinking? What can I read? Who can I talk to? Remember: we can still fight to address our concerns, knowing understanding is not agreement.

7. Catch misrepresentation and caricature!

Media literacy is not only about catching misinformation. It’s also about catching media distortion and stereotypes of our societal counterparts. We can start to catch bias and blind spots in media stories, and become less prey to manipulation and reactivity from the online machinery of anger.

8. Be an online voice of calm.

First, do no harm (e.g., don’t retweet things that make leaps about entire groups of other Americans). Be a voice that says, Wait. How do we know that about them? This doesn’t mean being silent or not speaking out about what’s important to us.

9. Bring RTT’s short film Purple to your community.

Our short film Purple and robust post-screening DIY Discussion Guide provide everything you need to introduce your community to bridge-building skills and ideas.

Host a Screening
Arrow pointing right

10. Shoot us an inquiry.

While we are not able to work directly with everyone who writes us, we have a strong referral network to facilitators we’ve trained as well as peer organizations. If we can’t work with you, we’ll try to help you find your way to other resources and ways to get involved.

Inquiries
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I cannot fully express how much Resetting the Table has opened my eyes (and more importantly, my ears) to the world around me.”

Lian, Program Coordinator, Tufts University
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I finally found a space where disagreement is not feared, but rather embraced. Even with such an emotionally charged topic that I feel strongly about, I was able to empathize with all of the perspectives that were shared."

Jeremy, young adult leader
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The day after the RTT retreat I woke up feeling like I'd returned from travel. Like I'd been to new places, seen things and met people that made me reexamine how I think, what I think and why."

Marcie, educator
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I have shied away from conflict in my relationships, but now I understand that directly understanding and addressing the differences in viewpoints can bring people closer together.”

Naomi, rabbinical student
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I was really surprised to see that everyone actually moved, became more open and accepting of others, and ready to criticize what they previously considered their only truth.”

Bobi, Chief Tech Innovation Officer